Controlling Husband Won’t Let Wife Go to Her Own Brother’s Wedding and Reddit is Furious

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    Rectangle - r/AmltheAsshole u/3465throw_away · 5d 1 S 32以24 17 8 42 1 3 F 2 AITA for refusing to stay home with the kids while my husband attends my brother's wedding?
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    Font - I'm a stahm and my husband works full time. We have 3 kids and one of them is 2 years old. My husband helps alot with the kids. He's a committed dad but is absolutely against babysitters due to an awful incident with a babysitter that was the reason his younger male cousin James got disabled years ago. I don't go out much since I have to take the kids with me and not every place is suitable for kids.
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    Font - We received an invitation for my brother's (who has been my husband's friend since college) wedding which we later discovered was child free. My brother lives states away so the entire trip will take 4 days as well as my brother's inlaws weekend dinner party (their tradition) I told my husband I want to go since it's been a while since I been to a wedding and this one is special and suggested we get a trusted friend as a babysitter. He asked if I was serious to consider leaving our 2 year
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    Font - He looked at me and said "That's my best friend's wedding you're asking me to skip for Christ's sake, are you kidding me?". Then said I was being petty for suggesting this and that I was basically choosing to go and party over keeping our kids safe. He asked me to consider this a business trip what would I do? Go with him and leave the kids?... I said understand his paranoia of babysitters but really all my friends have sitters and at times they're really needed. He said I ought to know b
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    Line - He keeps asking who's more important a wedding party or my kids and said I was unreasonable for making my attandance the hill to die on. Aita? Am i being selfish for wanting to attend this wedding, my brother's wedding after 4 years not attending anything? 4 21.6k 2.7k T, Share +
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    Font - Haytham_Ken · 5d Partassipant [2] O 2 Awards NTA. If he's the one against a babysitter then he should be the one who stays at home. Your relationship seems very one sided and you shouldn't stop yourself going out. Tell him to try another babysitter or he stays at home while you go out. Also, he says it's his best friend's wedding...it's your brother ffs. 4 7.6k ..
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    Font - Wolfenbro • 5d Colo-rectal Surgeon [49] NTA It's YOUR brother's wedding. Yes, it's his friend, but it is your brother, it seems ridiculous here that he feels he has more right to go to this wedding. Flip every argument back on him. He's choosing partying over his own kids He's asking you to "skip for Christ's sake" What's more important, a wedding party or his kids? His paranoia over babysitters is also .. extreme. I get being nervous leaving your kid with someone else, but if it's a frie
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    Font - MissionCreeper · 5d Yeah the husband doesn't even sound very smart about it, it's so obvious that all of these arguments apply more to her than to him. l'd never bother making such a weak argument with my wife. 4 426 ...
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    Font - Imagine how embarrassing it'll be for him when he shows up for his brother in laws wedding and says the grooms sister had to stay home because he thinks he's more important than her. Her family would be appalled. 4 2.4k 3 Jitterbitten • 5d Hopefully they would come help her pack. This is one of those rare posts that make me livid, like steam coming from my ears. And she doesn't seem to have had a break in 4 years? OP, your husband is an abusive AH and he couldn't logic himself out of a pa
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    Font - invomitous-rex • 5d Asshole Enthusiast [9] 17 Awards NTA this is insane. It's YOUR brother and somehow your husband things HE is the one who should get to go? When he's the whole reason you can't both go because of his unreasonable paranoia about hiring a babysitter? Honestly if I was you l'd be absolutely prepared to die on this hill. He's got away with holding you hostage to this nonsense for years. There is not one single logical reason why he should be allowed to attend rather than yo
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    Rectangle - jess1804 · 5d He never stays behind. It's about time he did. He wants no babysitter well he's dad so he can stay and let OP go to her brother's wedding. 4 4.6k
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    Font - catymogo • 5d 1 Award Or even someone they can bring with them to the wedding location to watch the kids for like 6 hours while they both go to the wedding. Then the kids are closeby with someone they trust and both parents go to the wedding. Easy peasy. 4 1.6k Dovahkiinette · 5d Of course this is the logical answer but OP's husband just wants a break from his wife and kids to party like he is in college again. If they came how could he possibly go on a 4 day bender without being nagged t
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    Rectangle - 9 January0717 · 5d Partassipant [4] 1 Award Your husband isn't terrified of an accident, he likes the control over you he has with the kids. I hope you see that. NTA 4 1k ..
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    Rectangle - MasterpieceOk4688 · 5d Asshole Aficionado [15] O 50 Awards I have a hard time to believe your husband is a good dad. Every single sentence from him smells like entitlement and selfishness. If you can't go to your brothers wedding, so can't he. Why doesn't he stay at home and you attend. Since this never came to his mind he thinks less of you and your needs. You are the servant for the children. Not his wife who is on the same level. This wedding shows you what kind of person your hus
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    Font - whymiheretho · 5d 6 Awards Literally every single accusation he's trying to throw at OP is equally applicable to him!!!! The hypocrisy and obtuseness is truly astounding!!!! 21.8k ...
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    Font - jess1804 · 5d 5 Awards Exactly. Why should OP miss her BROTHER'S wedding call me old fashioned but I think brother out ranks best friend. When was the last time OP'S husband stayed behind 16.2k ...
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    Font - Bellatrix_dog · 5d 1 Award When was the last time OP'S husband stayed behind The answer to this question is easy NEVER 8.9k 5 ParsnipBusy · 5d S 1 Award Never He wants her to stay in his home, raise his kids & be a housemaid.. But doesn't want to give her time to herself.. she might realize he's being a total jerk and it's not something she wants to be with 4 4.6k 3
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    Rectangle - perfectpencil · 5d Asshole Aficionado [14] 4 Awards He's trapped her. She relies on him financially completely and has an obligation to the kids. She can't walk away easily. He knows that and exploits it. 1 6.9k 3

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